Are you exhausted with life? With your job? Sensing that there are little or no end in this cycle of expectation?
Then maybe you’re alittle like me. Chasing shadows and rainbows. Unclear and misguided. Un sure if there’s even a finishing line.
This can stop. This can stop only if we stop cheating ourselves.
We’ve been programmed and we’ve been taught to constantly push the boundary every time we get closer to our initial target.Whatever happened to feeling satisfied and fulfilled with just simply… achieving?
We always seem to re-mark a new expectation, something higher, harder and tougher. When you find yourself in Maga, you start setting your eyes on summa. Top the class?, now go beat the cohort. Won a uni-case study challenge?, now join a national wide competiton. Got an internship?, good, start looking for another.
Aren’t we constantly extending this marathon, lengthening the race marker? When can we finally shower ourselves with the champagne of “satisfaction”?
In Singapore, I have always been taught to be competitive, to edge over others. Yes it brings a high level of satisfaction when you know you top the class, or top the cohort, but does it mean I have to be like this just to feel like i’m doing it right?
Do I really have to cheat on this marathon of life expectation? Do I?
There will always be someone else standing on the other side yelling the need to constantly challenge yourself. To break the bounds of stagnation, to ditch the old cocoon and evolve to a better self.
I am guilty of such a thinking and I am certainly guilty of preaching and encouraging everyone to hop onto this ever extending marathon.
But your health, your love, your life, your friends, the other un-countable aspect of life are giving in willingly because you tell yourself there is always a need to evolve. It is “expected”, it is “norm”, it is the only way to “succeed”.
I’m afraid. Because one day we will all burn out without even knowing why? Un-satisfied even though 10 years ago, we wouldn’t have ever expected to find ourselves in current position. Holding down a job, standing tall as a qualified accountant/lawyer, or having a car filled with noisy little you-s.
Maybe it’s time to seat back, breathe alittle, stop extending that marathon marker… and enjoy it like it is. Sit back and enjoy. Look beyond what counts in the resume.